The pain in my heart..

This might be probably the best place for me to write about my feelings since this blog of mine has dulled off and no one would read. This might be a safe place to express myself and maybe i might feel heard and not be judged by people.

It has been less than a month since that I considered about suicide, and this is my third time considering. I feel so worthless, useless and negligible. I tried saying my feelings out but it is so hard to use words to express. I try to let people understand my positions, but people just became more misunderstood about me.

Before yesterday, I did manage to keep a positive mentality for a whole week. I was thrilled at my progress. But over a small event, mostly due to my fault : the sensitive and selfish me, my whole week of effort went to waste.

I really don't want to live like this. I want to live happily. I know that I am blessed enough to have a wonderful comfortable home, people who love and care for me, and mostly get whatever I want. But why am I so easily affected by emotions. And I have so much difficulty expressing myself. There is no outlet for me to pour all the negativities out from my heart.

I did consider a dairy, but I can never trust diary because due to past experience I can never trust a diary anymore. I cannot write, I cannot speak, what can I do to break away from this pain?

I thought that I can slowly pick myself up to be a happy person. I only did manage for one week, I did learn to smile from my heart again. But now, I easily stumble over a small challenge. I used to have such a strong will power, where has this strength of mine has gone?

However, not all hopes are lost. I still have this small bit of strength left to stop me from throwing my life away. It is a lonely journey to fight myself out of this darkness, but I will fight no matter what. I will bring out every bit of fighting spirit left in me to move on.

And with the every bit of strength I mustered, I will do my best to believe that I can become a happy, calm and peaceful person. I will do my best!

Grey Dove

This evening, something extraordinary happened. Maybe to some of you would think that this is just nothing. But, I truly think the following event might be fated or something that cannot be explained.

Well, today I was supposed to continue research for my final-year-project. However, I procrastinated until afternoon. When I wanted to start my research, I only realised that I left my pendrive in my car, which my mom had driven out. So I was unable to start, which gave me another opportunity to procrastinate.When my mom came back with my car, I made another excuse not to get my pendrive as the sun was too hot for me to go out. By the late evening, I finally budged myself to make a move.

It was just few seconds away from my front gate and getting the pendrive from my car. When I was entering the front gate, a grey dove was just standing right in front (or in the middle) of my door step. As I move nearer, it was not scared of me. As I stood just right beside and touching its feathers, it didn’t move until I gave it a gentle push. It walked a few step away from me, but didn’t run away. So I attempted to touch it. As I caressed it, it just stood there as I did so. Finally, I decided to carry it up and it did not make any struggle what-so-ever. I quickly ran to my mom and sister showing what I’ve found.

Concluding that it might be hurt, we put it in a bird cage; serving it with paddy rice and water but it did not heed any of the food and drink. It just sat there resting quietly. We left the cage open, so that it could fly away whenever it wants.

While I was at the living hall thinking about the bird, I recalled, during my childhood time, how my father; sister and I found a bird. That bird was also as helpless as this bird. Judging by this current bird’s symptoms, this bird is almost near to its last breath as well.

Less than one hour after we left it, I went over to have a look, it looked like it don’t even have the strength to sit or stand properly. Its wings and tail were sprayed open as if trying to make an effort to stand. Its neck is bent as if trying to rest or hide. My first instinct told me is that this bird only left a few seconds or minutes.

I quickly ran over to my mom and told her, and she quickly made prayers for this bird so that it could have a good moment before its end. My mom, sister and I made prayer together for this bird. In just a few minutes, it passed away. I did not witness its last breath. I was in the toilet due to nature’s call as I can’t hold it anymore. My mom told me that its head made a small movement as if holding its last breath before it passed away. We made our final prayer for this bird before we bury it in a nearby park.

Maybe some of you might not understand why I would think that this is something extraordinary. In Buddhism, before each being passed on, they will see many things. And the those images seen by each being before passing away would determine where its soul would go. Hence, by making prayers to any being before and after death, we hope that the prayers would lead the souls to a better place.

I asked myself: What if I did not went out to get my pendrive at that time? Will I still be able to help this bird on it last moments? Why didn’t it go to someone else’s house? Why did it stood right in front of my doorstep? Everything during that particular event felt like it has been arranged. The timing and place was just right. I felt that it knew that we could help to ease its last moment, that’s why it stood there right in front of me. I felt honoured that we were able to help it.

May he be well and happy always

It had been almost a month since I got my 1st pet rabbit. We changed his name a few times already. Initally was Bit-bit, then Le-le, finally Win-win. Currently he's just 7weeks old. We been through alot with him in such a short time. Taking care of him, worrying for him, feeding him, cleaning him, bringing him to vet and everything that we can do to keep him at his best.

I haven't seen Win-win for almost a week now as I've got exam to focus and cannot take care of rabbit.

However, I just received news that he had ran away. My mom had no time to take care of him as she's very busy over new house's matters, so she sent to my aunt to take care. Just this morning, my aunt pitied him for being prison in a cage, so she let him out in the living hall to run around. In a glimpse of a moment, when my aunt went to take food, he was gone. No where to be found. That was what I heard.

When I got the news, I know that I had to accept the fact and let go. But, some part of me just felt that something is lost. I missed him dearly. During this 1week of not being able to see him, I thought of him every night and day. I am sad. No words can explain my lost.

My mom was sad too. She was the one that took care and spent most time with him. I hope that my mom is alright. She's worry that I cannot cope with this lost and distract me from my exam. My results will not be the reason for this lost. I hope that my mom can understand. I know that she beliefs in me that I am strong to take this on and move on.

I understand everything happens for a reason. I do not blame anyone. I just hope, wish and pray that Win-win will be well, happy, and healthy. May he be blessed.

I will let you go from my heart now, with all the blessings that I can give to you.

I love you, Win-win. Take care.

5 Things that I Am Grateful: Day #22

I am happy and grateful that..

1. I've got a new rabbit yesterday. My first pet. He's just 3weeks old. But he's so approachable and warm-hearted. Although he's still fragile and weak, he's still energetic in his own way. Lovable indeed. ^_^
2. Managed to study some for exam. Eventhough it is not much as I expect myself to absorb in this duration. Well, looking things at half-full is better than half-empty.
3. My complexions got better after expose less to air-conditioning. Really harmful to my skin.. dehydrated my skin..made me more wrinkles and looked rough.
4. Learning to let go of my attachments towards the rabbit. Otherwise, I would not be able to sleep well, study well and eat well. Glad that I am able to realise my own suffering early so that I know what to do for myself.
5. Although I am anxious and feeling more stress for exam as the days got nearer. I am able to calm myself and reassure myself that I will be able to cope with the exam with enough knowledge to build my confidence. =D

His name is Le-Le. As in Kuai Le means Happy in Chinese.

5 Things that I Am Grateful: Day #21

I am happy and grateful that..

1. I came to realise that things aren't as bad as it seems. After cooling my head, I am capable to see so much good sides of him. Even more, I am able to feel his sincere love for me. I suppose that when all is well, the end is well. =D
2. Get to do a little bit more for the Group Project. A small contribution weekly, it will reap a mountain of efforts in the end. Synergy!
3. Get to watch finish Hong Kong drama: No Regrets. Wonderful drama, good lessons and stories to learn.
4. Realised that I no longer bathe almost 1 hour. Somehow I've managed to fasten my pace in grooming myself... that I only require +/- 30minutes.
5. Happy to live yet another day that is filled with wonderful lessons for me to learn. ^_^

5 Things that I Am Grateful: Day #20

I am happy and grateful that..

1. I get to study a bit for PED. Managed to understand a little bit more from example sheet.
2. Watch drama whole day.
3. Feels like weekeend.
4. Trying to forgive him for lying to me. Hope that I can trust him. Is he telling me the truth? I don't know. Atleast I can assumed that he still care about my feelings that he had to lie to me.
5. I am grateful that my head is clear, that I don't throw tantrum like a few years back. I am able to control my emotions better. I don't care what others think about how emotional I am. Atleast I know that I have improved. And I will keep on improving.
6. Learning to love and protect myself.

5 Things that I Am Grateful: Day #19

I am happy and grateful that..

1. I got a new lappy: Mini HP from streamyx unipax. =p
2. Dyed hair.
3. Eat nice home-cooked noodle for lunch and delicious restaurant seafood dinner.
4. Read manga and watch drama.
5. I realised that I must start studying..Woan Wei, you can do it!! >o<
   

5 Things that I Am Grateful: Day #18

I am happy and thankful that...

1. I have recovered from sickness 90%. Yay! ^o^
2. Managed to do and complete weekly individual report for group project in 3hours.
3. Had hair treatment and good massage.
4. Rested well and watched tv.
5. I think I've slim downed a bit. Hehhehh.. xD
   

5 Things that I Am Grateful: Day #17

I am happy and grateful that..

1. I got to rest more, and managed to recover a little bit from fever and flu.
2. Able to finalise the group project questionnaires yesterday.
3. Being cared for.
4. Get to live another day.
5. I'm sweating! =p
   

5 Things that I Am Grateful: Day #16

I am happy and grateful that..

1. Eventhough that I am sick again(the 2nd time of the month), I am able to get the best out from it.
2. I managed to do 10% of my EMA2 lab report and small findings on the economics part for the group project. I consider this to be a productive day.
   
3. Had a large piece of Tiramisu cake in Secret Recipe.
4. Enjoy eating banana, apple and drinking tea.
5. Get to lazy around yesterday.
6. Decided that I would like to drop Mathematics for ODE, and take-up Mathematics for PDE. Found that the lecturer whom I respected is teaching MPD. Hope that I get to switch to this subject, and be able to cope with this subject with flying colours.
7. Catch up with a friend of mine after years of not keeping in touch.
   
8. Glad to know that there's still people looking into my blog.
   

~I smile with my eyes closed~

5 Things that I Am Grateful: Day #15

I am happy and grateful that..

1. I've managed to overcome my negative self day-by-day and being mindful bit-by-bit.
2. Managed to exercise twice already this week.
3. Have a good mangas reading. - I' really excited with what is going happen in the next chapter for every single manga.
4. Managed to contribute more for my group project.
5. Managed to study a wee bit for FWA subject. - hoping to start PED studies soon.
6. Relationship ups and downs. Glad that I've managed to handle it with less negativity, and with more love.
7. I'm learning to forgive myself bit-by-bit.
   

5 Things that I Am Grateful: Day #14

I am happy and grateful that...

1. I am back home.
2. Eat dinner with family.
3. Have facial mask.
4. Lazy around and watch tv.
5. A clean room to stay.
   

5 Things that I Am Grateful: Day #13

I am happy and grateful that..

1. I get to finish Assassin Creed. Finally!~ ^o^
2. Get to contribute a little bit to group project.
3. Manage to take a good nap today.
4. Learnt something in class.
5. Get to play Ipad and Kirby! ^o^
   

5 Things that I Am Grateful: Day #12

I am happy and grateful that..

1. I managed to finish and hand-in my PED1 report today.
2. Managed to study a few pages of notes.
3. Get to relax.
4. I am well and healthy.
5. Get to play games and go online.
6. Knowing what I want; do not give-in on being stepped-on by people. I deserve to be treated better.
7. I accept the way I am.
   

5 Things that I Am Grateful: Day #11

I am happy and grateful that...

1. I still remember to update my blog.
2. Managed to complete 50% of my PED1 report.
3. Managed to contribute a little bit to my group project.
4. Get to watch movies and play games.
5. Him being by my side.
6. Get to use internet.
7. Eat well, managed to control a better diet.
8. Listen to music.
9. Joke around.
10. Having supportive friends.
    

~^_^~

5 Things that I Am Grateful: Day #10

oh uh.. now only reach the tenth day of my mission. =0

I am happy and grateful that..

1. I am now back at home..get to lazy around. xD
2. Got hair treatment yday.
3. Still learning to do better in my romance relationship.
4. Still can sleep peacefully after a mosquitoes night attack!! @n@
5. Plu had a good bath yday.
6. My skin has improved after my body hormone has balanced up. =D
   

5 Things that I Am Grateful: Day #9

So basically, I only get to blog when I got the chance to sit down and do my private stuff online. Otherwise, I only get to come online for studies purpose. TcT"

I am happy and grateful that..

1. I get to do facial today.
2. Get to play Assassin Creed from his ps3.
3. He still loves me.
4. I'd drived safely back home.
5. Happy to be alive! ^o^
   

5 Things that I Am Grateful: Day #8

I was not able to go online during the weekend as I was busy packing, cleaning, unpacking and preparation for my new semester in the uni. So, here is the continuation gratitude attitude practice..

I am happy and grateful that..

1. I am a certified Dendrographologist - passed the test!
   
2. I am back at uni and manage to clean up and arrange everything in place.
3. Doing my best for the internship report.
4. Just managed to finish my presentation slide for tomorrow's industrial training presentation.
5. My relationship with him have ups and downs, but we are able to sail through them.
6. Drive safely on the road.
   

5 Things that I Am Grateful: Day #7

I am happy and grateful that..

1. I get to eat the black pepper fried spaghetti that I craved since last night.
2. Manage to study and memorised a bit for dendrographologist certification test tomorrow.
3. My new house's rabbit is all healthy, safe and sound.
4. Eat curry chicken again.
5. He still forgive and accept my flaws, and loving me.
6. Finish with my mom the filing drawer level 1.
   

5 Things that I Am Grateful: Day #6

I am happy and grateful that..

1. I get to attend Walton's investment talk and lunch today so that I can learn more about investments.
2. A little progress with my mom for her filing.
3. Exercise and stay healthy.
4. Less procrastination today. Took actions for the important things.
5. Still learning to be happy and seeing my own mistakes.
6. He is all safe and sound.